Some is Better Than None

Many of us that live with a mental health condition have probably been told by our mental healthcare team that we needed to make some lifestyle changes as well as taking medication and going to therapy in order to help our unwell brains become healthier. We've probably been told that exercising would help improve our mental health along with getting more sunshine. If your therapist is anything like mine, they may have also suggested taking up a meditation practice, doing yoga, and even diet changes to help manage the day-to-day symptoms of our mental health conditions.

Being asked to make all those lifestyle changes at once can feel like we're being asked to do a complete lifestyle overhaul, and that can be daunting, to say the least. The knee-jerk reaction for many of us is to say, "I'm never going to be able to make these big changes like they've asked. I'm not even going to try so I don't have to fail at it." It's not that we don't want to do it a lot of the time, really. Sure, resistance to the therapeutic process might be a piece of the puzzle, but the other pieces of the puzzle are all real world based. Those big changes can be hard to make because of budget, time, energy, and actual physical limitations that we have to work with.

When I first began my meditation practice, I would constantly take this issue to my therapist. I knew from research that twenty minutes of daily meditation is the amount of time recommended by scientific studies to be the most beneficial for helping manage the symptoms of mental illness. I felt like I was failing at meditation because I just couldn't make it to the recommended twenty minutes. I could comfortably do ten minutes before I started to feel stiff and fidgety and before I got antsy for it to be over. There were also times that I couldn't even find the time in my day to do the ten minutes. 

My therapist would always remind me of the same thing. She would say, "Just remember that some is better than none. Just because the science says that twenty minutes of meditation a day is the MOST beneficial for our brains doesn't mean that less time isn't beneficial, too. Any time you spend in meditation, whether it's ten minutes in a quiet room, a couple of minutes in the car, or even a minute in line at the grocery store, is better than spending no minutes in meditation."

She had the same approach to exercise and diet. Some smaller healthy changes that build to a bigger change are better than making no healthy changes in diet and exercise at all. If you can't do a complete diet overhaul, swap one unhealthy snack for a healthy one each day, like swap carrots, olives, or an apple for your usual potato chips or swap water for one of the sodas or sugary juice drinks each day. If you can't do a full work out because of time constraints with work or school or because of physical limitations, find some stretches to do at your desk or find some targeted exercises that work with your physical limitations that you can do so you're doing some exercise. 

The point is that we're trying to make the changes that will help our unwell brains. Instead of getting hung up on how big and daunting the changes feel before you start, and instead of remaining locked into the same patterns that are unhealthy because you have no idea where or how to start, just remember: some is better than none. Some of a good change in whatever area you need to work on is better than no good change in that area. You can always build on the "some" and the small changes as you go along and figure out what you have to work with in your life until you reach your goal.

I'll end with this: Being asked to make lifestyle changes in order to help our unwell brains can feel like we're being asked to overhaul our whole lives, which seems impossible to manage for a lot of us with budget, time, energy and/or physical limitations. But...we don't have to do the whole overhaul at once if it doesn't fit in the confines of the resources that we have. It's okay if you can only make smaller lifestyle changes, and you shouldn't feel like you're failing or that those smaller changes won't be beneficial for you. Remember you're doing your best with what you have to work with, and also remember that some healthy lifestyle changes are better than no healthy lifestyle changes. You can build on the "some" whenever you have the ability to do so, but you can't build on anything if you don't start it.